How to Stop Being a People Pleaser

People pleaserWhat is a “people pleaser?”  It is someone who thinks that they need to please others even when it isn’t right for them.  Imagine having someone ask you to marry them and you did because you didn’t want to hurt their feelings.  Yes that is pretty extreme but it may happen to individuals that may have grown up without much self-worth and was unable for the most part to think for themselves. 


I believe in discipline but instead of constant criticism or over exaggerated discipline, children need more praise for their talents and good that they do.  Allow them to become the person they are!  Of course leading them in the right direction will always be taught and shown by example. 

happy child

But when young people get older they sometimes never discover their self-worth.  They try to look for it in others or be guided by others and fall into the “people pleaser” trap.  This will never have a happy ending!  Instead of giving in under peer pressure, stop and think is this best for me?  What would be the right thing for my life?

When undecided, turn to the scriptures and find God’s wisdom for your life. I have written a helpful article on smart decision making here.  Acting on our own emotions or way of thinking will never be satisfying and we may pay dearly for all the bad decisions made under being a “people pleaser.”

reading the bible 

Don’t be that person thinking “if only I should have done this or that.”  Do not hang onto regret over this forever.  Pray and let God lead with His perfect plan for us. Start enjoying more blessings and a brighter future that we could never get on our own by being a “people pleaser.”  Being a God pleaser is the best plan and we will never regret the decision to follow Him and His wisdom for our lives.

But Peter and the apostles answered, “We must obey God rather than men.  Acts 5:29


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  1. Being a God pleaser is the best plan. There are many times we make poor decisions at the cost of trying to please everyone around us. So good to see you at my blog today. Hope you have been doing well!

  2. Thank you Mary! I have missed everyone and need to get back into my writing. Many Blessings and I hope to see you more often. 🙂

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